It’s all been quite surreal. I sorta expected that I wouldn’t really feel anything till I was on the plane, and well that’s certainly been the case, but I’m on the plane this very moment and I still don’t feel it. It’s as though my mind has managed to compartmentalize this entire experience and stow it away with the dormant adventurer in me who somehow I just can’t get in touch with and therefore I simply can’t process this at this moment. But from the moment I stepped out of the apartment, got into Diane’s car, dropped off the computer at Jad’s, it’s all felt so normal, and then only occasionally, did it have that tint of surrealness. Strange. This should feel so much more significant and yet, I’m on the plane writing about how it somehow feels mundane. But, there’s still something there, underneath the surface, something surreal that is trying to be heard, to be recognized as a reality I simply can’t grasp yet. It’s in the details. It’s in the little moments I’ve had that I either haven’t had in a really long time, or haven’t had at all. In the security measures at the airport, in not being able to step out for a smoke, in getting onto my first 777, my first 747, in flying over Paris. This dichotomy of banality and underlying excitement is strange and I can’t really describe it, but I think the best analogy, the best example of how I can describe this, the normal and unique living together in these many moments, is to say that just outside my window, travelling at 500mph, at 40,000ft is a tiny ass dust-bunny flapping in the wind within a crevice of the wing. Now if that’s not surreal, I have completely misunderstand the meaning of the word.
I came looking for something new, something different. I suspect by the time I leave it will feel that way, for now, it just seems like a touch of home, transplanted onto the bald head of another land. It’s all so familiar, the traffic, the smells, the shops. It’s only been a few days. I’ve walked around Connaught place, worked from my hotel room, met a couple fellow travelers, nothing too out of the ordinary. It took only one night to get accustomed to the shabby accommodations and I feel as though I’m in some unusually real dream. I think it hasn’t hit me yet.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Days 1 and 2
Day 1:
over 12 hours of flying and airports, the doors on the plane open and I step out to the smell of burning wood. So it begins. Walk through the airport, it seems pretty new, though still unfinished and not very efficient, but I never expected differently. Time for immigration. Hell, this is taking forever, so disorganized. In fact I’d say it’s worst than Haiti. Finally, I’m out, I grab my backpack from the carrousel, grab a bottle of rum from the duty free and I step out into the unknown, into the real india. I’m hoping to see a sign that has my inordinately long name written on it, indicating the pickup from the airport I was supposed to get. Not to be. I should have known, in fact part of me kind of expected it. So I try to call the “hotel” and can’t get through, meanwhile some cab middle man had followed from the minute I stepped out of the airport soliciting a cab ride and making small talk. I stand outside the airport taking it in, witnessing the mess and loving it, smoking a cigarette, then finally giving up and taking that ride from this middle man. He passes me on to a cab driver, then I’m off. So that’s how it works here. Everyone has deals with people. It’s a country of middle men, all collecting tiny commissions which somehow add up to a living at the end of the day. Rife with graft and cons and trickery you have to watch your back the whole time. I made my first couple mistakes that first night, but luckily I didn’t pay much for them and India still treated to me to the sight of a couple elephants hauling goods on Delhi’s main highwayat 2 in the morning. I finally get to the hotel after a whole ordeal of not finding the place and I get settled in.
It hasn’t hit me yet. I’m still in some real dream that I can’t wake up from. Maybe tomoro. I have a rum and coke and I crash.
Day 2
I sleep in a bit, till bout 10:30 or so, send some txts stay around the hotel, walk onto the terrace and look around. Monkeys have ventured onto the rooftop and are chilling. The sun is blotted out by the smog, a thick light gray haze that covers everything you can see. Across the street is a market and cars, cars, cars, all kinds, auto-rickshaws, motorcycles, it’s crazy and the deafening sound of the horns leaves no doubt that I’m not in Kansas anymore. Time for a short walk, get some grit on me, feel things out a bit. People hardly give me a second look. Other than my shaved head, earrings and backpack I think they see me as possibly an upper class Indian. It’s a cool little walk, I have no idea where I’m going but end up following the train tracks, human feces on the dirt path lining the tracks, still not a second look from anyone. I feel like I’m home. It’s port-au-prince just bigger and slightly busier. And it’s crazy. Indians have a great sense of spatial awareness honking their way through town inches away from everything but able to weave through without a hitch. It’s beautiful to watch.
It’s easy to get lost round here but somehow, like being home I just sensed where I was in relation to where I started from. Enough of a walk for today. I grab some food from off a small street stand, my first meal and I head back to the hotel to chill on the roof. Check my emails, let clients know I’ve arrived, do some work. I meet a couple travelers, chill with them, go for dinner with them, get hassled a bit, all part of the game.
It hasn’t hit me yet. The dream won’t end, I’m still home and I’m not lost here though I have no idea where I’m going or when.
over 12 hours of flying and airports, the doors on the plane open and I step out to the smell of burning wood. So it begins. Walk through the airport, it seems pretty new, though still unfinished and not very efficient, but I never expected differently. Time for immigration. Hell, this is taking forever, so disorganized. In fact I’d say it’s worst than Haiti. Finally, I’m out, I grab my backpack from the carrousel, grab a bottle of rum from the duty free and I step out into the unknown, into the real india. I’m hoping to see a sign that has my inordinately long name written on it, indicating the pickup from the airport I was supposed to get. Not to be. I should have known, in fact part of me kind of expected it. So I try to call the “hotel” and can’t get through, meanwhile some cab middle man had followed from the minute I stepped out of the airport soliciting a cab ride and making small talk. I stand outside the airport taking it in, witnessing the mess and loving it, smoking a cigarette, then finally giving up and taking that ride from this middle man. He passes me on to a cab driver, then I’m off. So that’s how it works here. Everyone has deals with people. It’s a country of middle men, all collecting tiny commissions which somehow add up to a living at the end of the day. Rife with graft and cons and trickery you have to watch your back the whole time. I made my first couple mistakes that first night, but luckily I didn’t pay much for them and India still treated to me to the sight of a couple elephants hauling goods on Delhi’s main highwayat 2 in the morning. I finally get to the hotel after a whole ordeal of not finding the place and I get settled in.
It hasn’t hit me yet. I’m still in some real dream that I can’t wake up from. Maybe tomoro. I have a rum and coke and I crash.
Day 2
I sleep in a bit, till bout 10:30 or so, send some txts stay around the hotel, walk onto the terrace and look around. Monkeys have ventured onto the rooftop and are chilling. The sun is blotted out by the smog, a thick light gray haze that covers everything you can see. Across the street is a market and cars, cars, cars, all kinds, auto-rickshaws, motorcycles, it’s crazy and the deafening sound of the horns leaves no doubt that I’m not in Kansas anymore. Time for a short walk, get some grit on me, feel things out a bit. People hardly give me a second look. Other than my shaved head, earrings and backpack I think they see me as possibly an upper class Indian. It’s a cool little walk, I have no idea where I’m going but end up following the train tracks, human feces on the dirt path lining the tracks, still not a second look from anyone. I feel like I’m home. It’s port-au-prince just bigger and slightly busier. And it’s crazy. Indians have a great sense of spatial awareness honking their way through town inches away from everything but able to weave through without a hitch. It’s beautiful to watch.
It’s easy to get lost round here but somehow, like being home I just sensed where I was in relation to where I started from. Enough of a walk for today. I grab some food from off a small street stand, my first meal and I head back to the hotel to chill on the roof. Check my emails, let clients know I’ve arrived, do some work. I meet a couple travelers, chill with them, go for dinner with them, get hassled a bit, all part of the game.
It hasn’t hit me yet. The dream won’t end, I’m still home and I’m not lost here though I have no idea where I’m going or when.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
My last days of 2007 - First days of 2008
Day 3
Friday in Delhi. Time to get some train tickets to varanassi. During my walk I had come across the train station so I knew where I’d find it. No problem. I get there, to the tourist office and I see the first real concentration of travelers. No success with the ticket tho. Everything in india requires a passport, from reserving a train ticket to getting a SIM card. It’s ridiculous. On the one hand you can get any kind of service you can think of quickly and easily, but on the other, everything legit requires paperwork. The paper. Wow. I can’t imagine where it all goes. Paper for everything.
The train station brings me to my first real traveler experience. Meet a couple and a solo traveler, then we head off to another rooftop terrace for some food and tea. Really cool. Flocks of pigeons guided by the shouts of men competing from roof to roof in a game I still don’t understand. Hawks in the hundreds in the dusty sky. Even up here you get whiffs of urine, here above the grand bizarre in Delhi. To get here we had to walk through crowded streets packed with shops on either side filled with incense, thousands of people, lots of tourists and colors; blinding beautiful colors. Behind the colors are electrical wires connecting building after building in triplicates, balls of wires, all over the place. How can this place stay functional? It boggles the mind. My body knows I’m here but my mind still can’t fathom I’m in India, despite the smells, the sights, the sounds. I walk through the streets practically drinking urine with every breath and I still don’t feel any different. How can this be? What was I expecting? Why is this all so familiar?
Time to head back and do some work, get my SIM card, try again to get train tickets from an unofficial "tourist" office. No luck again. Leita’s gonna be disappointed. I’ll have to deal with that tomorrow. Today, I’m just happy I got to do the things I did. It’s been a good day.
NY’s 2008
Hung out and slept in on the 31st. All the running around with the family before they left and all I could think of was taking it easy and doing nothing but lying in bed. I hardly left the room and did so only to check email. The 2 singapore women I had met came by to see if I wanted to join them in trying to find something to do that night to celebrate NYs. I was a bit reluctant, but in the end I decided I had nothing to lose so I went. We walked around for what seemed like forever. Everything closes so early here, even on the 31st. Plenty of places were offering open bar packages, 2000 here, 5000, 7000, all were too much as far as I was concerned, and they all closed around 12, 1, maybe 2. Ridiculous. Eventually, Julio, a fellow traveler the girls had met who had joined us asked these 2 other couples for directions and next thing you know they were joining us in our pointless search for a non-existent party. In the end it was lucky for us as they brought us to a liquor store where I managed to get another bottle of rum for $4. There are some beautiful things about being in India; the cost of living is one of them. So, from there we headed away from Connaught place and back to our headquarters in Pahar Ganj. More walking, more indecision, more complications and compromises seeing as we were a pretty big group by now, 2 russians (couple), 1 spanish and Czech couple, the 2 singapore girls and Julio the Spanish guy. Eventually we settled on a tiny coffee shop that seemed to have the coolest owners or managers. Either way, the vibe was good, we were able to open our bottles of rum and pour our own drinks, the workers and friends of workers, many of them Nepalese, were drunk and dancing. All in all it was a good sight, even if a little boring at times (cause of the seating arrangements I simply couldn’t have any decent conversations and didn’t feel like dancing). So it was, a couple hours later I was ready to head back. Got home to my little Anoop, got online, went into my room ordered some food, watched some tv and ended my year with the closing of my tired eyes.
Jan 1, 2008
Still kinda tired or I should say bored, and not really feeling like doing much. Finalized my plans for the next little while, will buy my ticket tomorrow, might meet up with the Singapore girls again to swap music, and then I’ll call it a night and get up tomorrow to go to the train station and see about getting tickets to Jammu. This is how my year began.
Jan 4
I've gone to the net cafe 3 times today. I had no idea I'd be using the net as often as I am. I had no idea I'd be spending so much on it either, but it's a cost I feel I have to pay not just because it's my main connection to the real world but because it relieves some of my apprehension towards work.
It's 9:31 PM here. I'm gonna have to crash early tonight since i'm being picked up at 6 in the morning tomorrow by jeep to go to Srinigar, assuming of course that they didn't just outright steal my money. It was stupid of me. I can't believe I did that. I know better. I just slowly began accepting him because I figured "he's with the government, it's ok". And the Lonely Planet said that that place was ok. But now, I wonder, even if the jeep comes by, what house boat I'll be thrown into. Will it really have heating or will i freeze out there on the lake? I think in the end, he may have worked in the government offices, but made a personal deal. I doubt they'll screw me on the jeep. That would be a little much, but the houseboat, that could be a nightmare and there are apparently tons of stories of people who get screwed reserving a houseboat ahead of time before seeing them, some people even being held hostage to pay up or god knows what else. We're not talking kidnapping hostage, just having life made really difficult. But hey, I came to India for a challenge and for experience and for growth and came to Srinigar during off season for more of that, as I felt in Delhi I wasn't getting enough of it, and even though this isn't the kind of challenge I had in mind, you can never really choose that can you? A real test comes when you haven't been studying and aren't prepared. So wish me luck.
The people here are generally fairer skinned. In fact. they often speak to me in whatever language, Kasmiri I guess, until I look back at them with questions in my eyes and they realize they got me wrong. I don't think any think I live here, but maybe an ex-pat come back to his country after a few years, cause my clothes certainly make me an outsider. It's not that they're all that different, but these jeans are baggier, i have a small packpack on, my hair is short, i have the 2 earrings, but still sometimes they can't believe i'm not kashmiri. Kinda cool to blend in that way, without really blending in of course. If I had a scarf, one of the typical ones from around here and changed my pants, they'd have no clue and I could walk around as a full on kashmiri, except of course for my packback which holds my laptop. But hey, i can't part from it, so what to do?
God, I'm so glad I brought my sleeping bag and a sheet. So far the most valuable things I've brought have been, and in order 1. laptop for some sort of connection and simply cause without it, i simply will have no way to stay or no business to go back to, 2. my sleeping bag, for those extra cold nights and train rides when i'm in the sleeper class, 3. my sheet to give me some separation between my body, even though I sleep clothed, and the usually nasty sheets that so many of the hotels have had, whether clean or not, they just never look it, 4. phone for its camera and music and lastly for its sms and providing a feeling of being accessible in emergencies, 5. compass, for just helping me confirm my bearings from time to time, it just puts me at ease and allows me to be more efficient and less dependent on people 6. clothes
Ugh. It's hard to find a comfy position to type from with a laptop. My hand always ends up hurting. And lately, i've been doing a lot of typing.
Got a bit of new music from those Singapore girls. They came by and hung out and we swapped music on their last night in Delhi. I think it was my last night too. Ya. It was. I got a singapore electro band called, wait for it, Electrico, hehe, and another band called KT Tunstall, and Nouvelle Vague, and Rachael Yamagata. Anyway, haven't really listened to em yet, maybe i'll do that tonight or throw them onto my phone for the ride tomoro. And they took a bunch from me, Gotan, Shpongle, Thievery, and a few others. Was one of the few moments of hanging out with anyone for more than an hour. Took a couple pics of them and got their emails. Young girls, a little conservative, surprisingly not aware of a lot of pretty basic scientific theories out there. Sorry, but i just assumed asians had a pretty good grasp on science, but that was probably a generalization, maybe it's just math. HAHA.
Friday in Delhi. Time to get some train tickets to varanassi. During my walk I had come across the train station so I knew where I’d find it. No problem. I get there, to the tourist office and I see the first real concentration of travelers. No success with the ticket tho. Everything in india requires a passport, from reserving a train ticket to getting a SIM card. It’s ridiculous. On the one hand you can get any kind of service you can think of quickly and easily, but on the other, everything legit requires paperwork. The paper. Wow. I can’t imagine where it all goes. Paper for everything.
The train station brings me to my first real traveler experience. Meet a couple and a solo traveler, then we head off to another rooftop terrace for some food and tea. Really cool. Flocks of pigeons guided by the shouts of men competing from roof to roof in a game I still don’t understand. Hawks in the hundreds in the dusty sky. Even up here you get whiffs of urine, here above the grand bizarre in Delhi. To get here we had to walk through crowded streets packed with shops on either side filled with incense, thousands of people, lots of tourists and colors; blinding beautiful colors. Behind the colors are electrical wires connecting building after building in triplicates, balls of wires, all over the place. How can this place stay functional? It boggles the mind. My body knows I’m here but my mind still can’t fathom I’m in India, despite the smells, the sights, the sounds. I walk through the streets practically drinking urine with every breath and I still don’t feel any different. How can this be? What was I expecting? Why is this all so familiar?
Time to head back and do some work, get my SIM card, try again to get train tickets from an unofficial "tourist" office. No luck again. Leita’s gonna be disappointed. I’ll have to deal with that tomorrow. Today, I’m just happy I got to do the things I did. It’s been a good day.
NY’s 2008
Hung out and slept in on the 31st. All the running around with the family before they left and all I could think of was taking it easy and doing nothing but lying in bed. I hardly left the room and did so only to check email. The 2 singapore women I had met came by to see if I wanted to join them in trying to find something to do that night to celebrate NYs. I was a bit reluctant, but in the end I decided I had nothing to lose so I went. We walked around for what seemed like forever. Everything closes so early here, even on the 31st. Plenty of places were offering open bar packages, 2000 here, 5000, 7000, all were too much as far as I was concerned, and they all closed around 12, 1, maybe 2. Ridiculous. Eventually, Julio, a fellow traveler the girls had met who had joined us asked these 2 other couples for directions and next thing you know they were joining us in our pointless search for a non-existent party. In the end it was lucky for us as they brought us to a liquor store where I managed to get another bottle of rum for $4. There are some beautiful things about being in India; the cost of living is one of them. So, from there we headed away from Connaught place and back to our headquarters in Pahar Ganj. More walking, more indecision, more complications and compromises seeing as we were a pretty big group by now, 2 russians (couple), 1 spanish and Czech couple, the 2 singapore girls and Julio the Spanish guy. Eventually we settled on a tiny coffee shop that seemed to have the coolest owners or managers. Either way, the vibe was good, we were able to open our bottles of rum and pour our own drinks, the workers and friends of workers, many of them Nepalese, were drunk and dancing. All in all it was a good sight, even if a little boring at times (cause of the seating arrangements I simply couldn’t have any decent conversations and didn’t feel like dancing). So it was, a couple hours later I was ready to head back. Got home to my little Anoop, got online, went into my room ordered some food, watched some tv and ended my year with the closing of my tired eyes.
Jan 1, 2008
Still kinda tired or I should say bored, and not really feeling like doing much. Finalized my plans for the next little while, will buy my ticket tomorrow, might meet up with the Singapore girls again to swap music, and then I’ll call it a night and get up tomorrow to go to the train station and see about getting tickets to Jammu. This is how my year began.
Jan 4
I've gone to the net cafe 3 times today. I had no idea I'd be using the net as often as I am. I had no idea I'd be spending so much on it either, but it's a cost I feel I have to pay not just because it's my main connection to the real world but because it relieves some of my apprehension towards work.
It's 9:31 PM here. I'm gonna have to crash early tonight since i'm being picked up at 6 in the morning tomorrow by jeep to go to Srinigar, assuming of course that they didn't just outright steal my money. It was stupid of me. I can't believe I did that. I know better. I just slowly began accepting him because I figured "he's with the government, it's ok". And the Lonely Planet said that that place was ok. But now, I wonder, even if the jeep comes by, what house boat I'll be thrown into. Will it really have heating or will i freeze out there on the lake? I think in the end, he may have worked in the government offices, but made a personal deal. I doubt they'll screw me on the jeep. That would be a little much, but the houseboat, that could be a nightmare and there are apparently tons of stories of people who get screwed reserving a houseboat ahead of time before seeing them, some people even being held hostage to pay up or god knows what else. We're not talking kidnapping hostage, just having life made really difficult. But hey, I came to India for a challenge and for experience and for growth and came to Srinigar during off season for more of that, as I felt in Delhi I wasn't getting enough of it, and even though this isn't the kind of challenge I had in mind, you can never really choose that can you? A real test comes when you haven't been studying and aren't prepared. So wish me luck.
The people here are generally fairer skinned. In fact. they often speak to me in whatever language, Kasmiri I guess, until I look back at them with questions in my eyes and they realize they got me wrong. I don't think any think I live here, but maybe an ex-pat come back to his country after a few years, cause my clothes certainly make me an outsider. It's not that they're all that different, but these jeans are baggier, i have a small packpack on, my hair is short, i have the 2 earrings, but still sometimes they can't believe i'm not kashmiri. Kinda cool to blend in that way, without really blending in of course. If I had a scarf, one of the typical ones from around here and changed my pants, they'd have no clue and I could walk around as a full on kashmiri, except of course for my packback which holds my laptop. But hey, i can't part from it, so what to do?
God, I'm so glad I brought my sleeping bag and a sheet. So far the most valuable things I've brought have been, and in order 1. laptop for some sort of connection and simply cause without it, i simply will have no way to stay or no business to go back to, 2. my sleeping bag, for those extra cold nights and train rides when i'm in the sleeper class, 3. my sheet to give me some separation between my body, even though I sleep clothed, and the usually nasty sheets that so many of the hotels have had, whether clean or not, they just never look it, 4. phone for its camera and music and lastly for its sms and providing a feeling of being accessible in emergencies, 5. compass, for just helping me confirm my bearings from time to time, it just puts me at ease and allows me to be more efficient and less dependent on people 6. clothes
Ugh. It's hard to find a comfy position to type from with a laptop. My hand always ends up hurting. And lately, i've been doing a lot of typing.
Got a bit of new music from those Singapore girls. They came by and hung out and we swapped music on their last night in Delhi. I think it was my last night too. Ya. It was. I got a singapore electro band called, wait for it, Electrico, hehe, and another band called KT Tunstall, and Nouvelle Vague, and Rachael Yamagata. Anyway, haven't really listened to em yet, maybe i'll do that tonight or throw them onto my phone for the ride tomoro. And they took a bunch from me, Gotan, Shpongle, Thievery, and a few others. Was one of the few moments of hanging out with anyone for more than an hour. Took a couple pics of them and got their emails. Young girls, a little conservative, surprisingly not aware of a lot of pretty basic scientific theories out there. Sorry, but i just assumed asians had a pretty good grasp on science, but that was probably a generalization, maybe it's just math. HAHA.
Friday, May 29, 2009
Jan 4
Jan 4th.
I've made it to kashmir and am safely on a houseboat in the famous city of srinigar. I was looking for something different and I found it in Kashmir. THis place, is so different from the rest of india. in fact I understand why they call themselves kasmiri and not indian or pakistani. The people are different, the land is different, the entire vibe of this place is different. I was beginning to get bored of the tourist India I'd seen up to now, thinking I had had enough of forts and temples and I hesitated about coming here for fear it would be too cold and not knowing what it would be like with no other tourists around since it's dead season here. But it was worth it. Yes, I got overcharged, and I will try to remedy that tomorrow by calling up the agent who booked this place and getting a better rate for tomorrow, and if not I'll find another hotel in town, in essence, one night on a houseboat is enough, though I wouldn't mind a second or maybe even third.
The ride here was long, really long. Woke up at 5:29, one minute before my alarm because of a dream I can't remember. Was eerie to wake up and find I had beat my alarm to it. Got ready and waited to be picked up. That in and of itself was an experience. When they came to pick me up in the middle of the main street they didn't say a word, so I wasn't even sure it was the right people or just someone who figured i was going that way and wanted to play himself off as my ride. Even after showing the card and asking if it was truly my ride I didn't feel confident, but my agent showed up and by 7 or so, we were off. The road starts off completely uphill, then down into a valley, then the mountains begin to show up in the distance and next thing you know, assuming you're awake enough to notice it, your winding your way around the edge of the great himalayas. It's no Tibet but it's grandiose nonetheless. I was getting excited. Only one thing could ruin my kashmiri experience now and that would be the house boat. 8 hours later, I arrived and saw my boat, a decripit little structure among many other decripit little structures, but it was on the water's edge, and I had payed for it, and really, on a second look, it wasn't all that bad. THey said I'd have power, they'd arrange for hot water, my meals were included, fuck it, it's already payed. I put my bags down and went to join the agent's family in their home which is just a few feet away.
It's fucking cold and I was worried about that and how I'd manage if the boat were indeed a rip off. But, for the most part, I was awestruck by the differences, the changes in temperature, in environment, the snow capped himalayas, the change in architecture, the meandering river now pretty much dried up in the name of progress and hydroelectric power. It just all seemed like a real adventure, a road less travelled at a time when no one was even considering it and that made it all the more special. Everyone speaks to me in kashmiri first, thinking i'm one of them and that too has it's charm, tho not all look amused when I say I don't understand in english that probably sounds way to american to them to be anything but. But given some time, as in the shared jeep I took to get here, they warm up. I was in the jeep with 6 other people to begin with and the number fluctuated constantly, dropping one off, picking one up, etc. But the permanent travellers, most either from Kashmir or Jammu seemed cool enough, even offering me some barfi which is an indian sweet which surprisingly was quite good. So, all of this, being amongst real kashmiris for 8 hours, being surrounded by the music blaring occassionally on the jeep radio, the conversations between a bunch of strangers which I could not understand a word of, the strangely efficient maniacal driving along 2lane roads that rarely had barriers to keep us from falling a thousand feet down, made it an enjoyable ride.
Seeing the houseboat wasn't all that comforting, but it's what came next that made me feel like I really had made the right decision, even if it cost me a pretty penny in indian terms. My "guide", in fact the man who works for the agent's family, seemed like a nice guy, and his english was good enough that i felt I could ask some questions and I did. He brought me into the home of the family that owned the boat (agent's family). I couldn't quite figure out his relationship to them but when I got there, there was only a young kid, 12 or 13, he wasn't sure of his age, and an older women, I would say late 30s maybe, tho age is hard to figure out around here. I never quite got her name, and I can't remember his, but the kid's name is bilal, which means blue eyes. THey sat me down, gave me a Kavawa tea, the typical kashmiri tea which is quite good, sweet and hot, and they put a faron on me, a typical kashmiri top, which everyone wears here, women as much as men. It's an oversized shirt, too wide, too long, all around too big. Didn't quite get why everyone i had seen up to then was wearing one. I chalked it up to ridiculous tradition, though I could tell that very often, people had their arms not in the sleeves but inside the shirt, to keep them warm. Well, he began to explain it for me. It's oversized so people can easily slip it on or off, can quickly pull their arms in and out of the sleeve when needed, and when sitting so it can be pulled to cover the entire lower body. Cool huh? But wait, there's more. It's made of wool, pretty thick and well, the one i had on was kinda scratchy but I assume the better quality ones aren't. To add to the warmth factor and all around efficiency and flexibility of it, they place what's called a winter wife, which is essentially a clay pot in a pot holder made of twine with a sturdy handle on the top which allows you to carry it easily from one place to another and apparently they carry them everywhere. But, inside the clay pot, is lit charcoal. The clay keeps it from getting too hot and the twine pot holder makes it portable. The idea is, you sit place it on your lap or by your feet and then cover it and your body with the now necessary oversized faron. Such little genuis can be found all over the world, but I had never seen or heard of this. It was a great treat. This is how they keep warm in their homes, in their shakkaras, even just sitting by the road or the lake. I was in my own way, enthralled. There's no heating here, and it can get down to -10 on a cold night, but between this and their sleeping tactics, they deal with it quite well.
To sleep, and there's no furniture in their homes to sit on, just a few cushions they lay against the wall, and wall to wall, uh, rugging, as it's not really a carpet either but a collection of rugs. Well, first off, I know why Kashmiri rugs are famous, it's because they have to be good and they are needed to shield the feet and body from the otherwise cold floors. People sleep on the floor and in the winter that must be a rough thing but with numerous blankets and hot water bottles and even occasional winter wives, they apparently are quite warm. I have to admit it works. I'm currently typing this from my deathly cold room. In fact, as I type I can see my breath in here, but I'm warm. I have 2 hot water bottles under me, my sleeping bag, my blanket and 2 or 3 of their blankets on top of me. Well, I'm also wearing my warm flanel pj pants and about three layers on top and 2 pair of socks just in case, cause for sure the water bottles won't last all night. Anyway, let's move away from the clever heating solutions.
So, shortly after i was seated and given tea and appropriate clothing, a couple walks in. Well I thought they were a couple but it was the cousin or brother of the agent and the daughter of the woman who lives in this home. They were both quite nice, though the young woman didn't really say hi, but did smile. She too thought I was kashmiri. She was cute, in fact, I have to say of all the women I've seen in India, not on tv, she's the most attractive one I've seen. Young, I later found out around 15 or 16, as she doesn't know her age either. The visiting brother sat for a while, had some tea, we talked, his english was pretty good too, and then left. Then, another woman stepped in, the mother of bilal and the young woman I just spoke of, who's name escapes me now but will come back to me. Nice woman, doesn't speak a word of english though her 2 children managed a few here and there. We all talked, it was nice. A little while later a third child, daughter, name of Lilu, but nicknkamed Adi, walked in and said hi, thinking i was also a kashmiri and not recognizing me as being a new guest of the family's. She was also very attractive. In fact, all three kids were really attractive. It was a bit shocking as I didn't really think I've ever really meet any locals who were attractive, not that it matters, but give me a break, you know what I mean. It's just strange to be in a country and see so few attractive people. Haha. Alright, so, we're all sitting there, talking about a whole bunch of things and the three of us, particularly the 2 girls and I, were having a good time, asking each other questions, me trying to understand the culture and language, them asking about my background, country of origin, work or school sits, typical but genuine and nice and they smiled which was a nice change. Then, they left and just the guide and I had dinner together on the floor, eating with our hands. It was really cool. I found out how to shovel food in my mouth; you use your thumb to slide it in. Ha. THe little things. It was a shanti, peaceful and entertaining experience, real, local, completely outside of the tourist experiences I had had up to now.
Anyway, it's late now (10:45, it's dead quiet out there, dead cold in here, and for the first time since being in India, completely peaceful. Maybe I'll write more. I'm not sure whether I'm tired or not, though i got only 4 hours last night, but I'm gonna throw on a movie and have a couple drinks and a smoke and hopefully fall asleep before the water bottles lose their niceness.
I've made it to kashmir and am safely on a houseboat in the famous city of srinigar. I was looking for something different and I found it in Kashmir. THis place, is so different from the rest of india. in fact I understand why they call themselves kasmiri and not indian or pakistani. The people are different, the land is different, the entire vibe of this place is different. I was beginning to get bored of the tourist India I'd seen up to now, thinking I had had enough of forts and temples and I hesitated about coming here for fear it would be too cold and not knowing what it would be like with no other tourists around since it's dead season here. But it was worth it. Yes, I got overcharged, and I will try to remedy that tomorrow by calling up the agent who booked this place and getting a better rate for tomorrow, and if not I'll find another hotel in town, in essence, one night on a houseboat is enough, though I wouldn't mind a second or maybe even third.
The ride here was long, really long. Woke up at 5:29, one minute before my alarm because of a dream I can't remember. Was eerie to wake up and find I had beat my alarm to it. Got ready and waited to be picked up. That in and of itself was an experience. When they came to pick me up in the middle of the main street they didn't say a word, so I wasn't even sure it was the right people or just someone who figured i was going that way and wanted to play himself off as my ride. Even after showing the card and asking if it was truly my ride I didn't feel confident, but my agent showed up and by 7 or so, we were off. The road starts off completely uphill, then down into a valley, then the mountains begin to show up in the distance and next thing you know, assuming you're awake enough to notice it, your winding your way around the edge of the great himalayas. It's no Tibet but it's grandiose nonetheless. I was getting excited. Only one thing could ruin my kashmiri experience now and that would be the house boat. 8 hours later, I arrived and saw my boat, a decripit little structure among many other decripit little structures, but it was on the water's edge, and I had payed for it, and really, on a second look, it wasn't all that bad. THey said I'd have power, they'd arrange for hot water, my meals were included, fuck it, it's already payed. I put my bags down and went to join the agent's family in their home which is just a few feet away.
It's fucking cold and I was worried about that and how I'd manage if the boat were indeed a rip off. But, for the most part, I was awestruck by the differences, the changes in temperature, in environment, the snow capped himalayas, the change in architecture, the meandering river now pretty much dried up in the name of progress and hydroelectric power. It just all seemed like a real adventure, a road less travelled at a time when no one was even considering it and that made it all the more special. Everyone speaks to me in kashmiri first, thinking i'm one of them and that too has it's charm, tho not all look amused when I say I don't understand in english that probably sounds way to american to them to be anything but. But given some time, as in the shared jeep I took to get here, they warm up. I was in the jeep with 6 other people to begin with and the number fluctuated constantly, dropping one off, picking one up, etc. But the permanent travellers, most either from Kashmir or Jammu seemed cool enough, even offering me some barfi which is an indian sweet which surprisingly was quite good. So, all of this, being amongst real kashmiris for 8 hours, being surrounded by the music blaring occassionally on the jeep radio, the conversations between a bunch of strangers which I could not understand a word of, the strangely efficient maniacal driving along 2lane roads that rarely had barriers to keep us from falling a thousand feet down, made it an enjoyable ride.
Seeing the houseboat wasn't all that comforting, but it's what came next that made me feel like I really had made the right decision, even if it cost me a pretty penny in indian terms. My "guide", in fact the man who works for the agent's family, seemed like a nice guy, and his english was good enough that i felt I could ask some questions and I did. He brought me into the home of the family that owned the boat (agent's family). I couldn't quite figure out his relationship to them but when I got there, there was only a young kid, 12 or 13, he wasn't sure of his age, and an older women, I would say late 30s maybe, tho age is hard to figure out around here. I never quite got her name, and I can't remember his, but the kid's name is bilal, which means blue eyes. THey sat me down, gave me a Kavawa tea, the typical kashmiri tea which is quite good, sweet and hot, and they put a faron on me, a typical kashmiri top, which everyone wears here, women as much as men. It's an oversized shirt, too wide, too long, all around too big. Didn't quite get why everyone i had seen up to then was wearing one. I chalked it up to ridiculous tradition, though I could tell that very often, people had their arms not in the sleeves but inside the shirt, to keep them warm. Well, he began to explain it for me. It's oversized so people can easily slip it on or off, can quickly pull their arms in and out of the sleeve when needed, and when sitting so it can be pulled to cover the entire lower body. Cool huh? But wait, there's more. It's made of wool, pretty thick and well, the one i had on was kinda scratchy but I assume the better quality ones aren't. To add to the warmth factor and all around efficiency and flexibility of it, they place what's called a winter wife, which is essentially a clay pot in a pot holder made of twine with a sturdy handle on the top which allows you to carry it easily from one place to another and apparently they carry them everywhere. But, inside the clay pot, is lit charcoal. The clay keeps it from getting too hot and the twine pot holder makes it portable. The idea is, you sit place it on your lap or by your feet and then cover it and your body with the now necessary oversized faron. Such little genuis can be found all over the world, but I had never seen or heard of this. It was a great treat. This is how they keep warm in their homes, in their shakkaras, even just sitting by the road or the lake. I was in my own way, enthralled. There's no heating here, and it can get down to -10 on a cold night, but between this and their sleeping tactics, they deal with it quite well.
To sleep, and there's no furniture in their homes to sit on, just a few cushions they lay against the wall, and wall to wall, uh, rugging, as it's not really a carpet either but a collection of rugs. Well, first off, I know why Kashmiri rugs are famous, it's because they have to be good and they are needed to shield the feet and body from the otherwise cold floors. People sleep on the floor and in the winter that must be a rough thing but with numerous blankets and hot water bottles and even occasional winter wives, they apparently are quite warm. I have to admit it works. I'm currently typing this from my deathly cold room. In fact, as I type I can see my breath in here, but I'm warm. I have 2 hot water bottles under me, my sleeping bag, my blanket and 2 or 3 of their blankets on top of me. Well, I'm also wearing my warm flanel pj pants and about three layers on top and 2 pair of socks just in case, cause for sure the water bottles won't last all night. Anyway, let's move away from the clever heating solutions.
So, shortly after i was seated and given tea and appropriate clothing, a couple walks in. Well I thought they were a couple but it was the cousin or brother of the agent and the daughter of the woman who lives in this home. They were both quite nice, though the young woman didn't really say hi, but did smile. She too thought I was kashmiri. She was cute, in fact, I have to say of all the women I've seen in India, not on tv, she's the most attractive one I've seen. Young, I later found out around 15 or 16, as she doesn't know her age either. The visiting brother sat for a while, had some tea, we talked, his english was pretty good too, and then left. Then, another woman stepped in, the mother of bilal and the young woman I just spoke of, who's name escapes me now but will come back to me. Nice woman, doesn't speak a word of english though her 2 children managed a few here and there. We all talked, it was nice. A little while later a third child, daughter, name of Lilu, but nicknkamed Adi, walked in and said hi, thinking i was also a kashmiri and not recognizing me as being a new guest of the family's. She was also very attractive. In fact, all three kids were really attractive. It was a bit shocking as I didn't really think I've ever really meet any locals who were attractive, not that it matters, but give me a break, you know what I mean. It's just strange to be in a country and see so few attractive people. Haha. Alright, so, we're all sitting there, talking about a whole bunch of things and the three of us, particularly the 2 girls and I, were having a good time, asking each other questions, me trying to understand the culture and language, them asking about my background, country of origin, work or school sits, typical but genuine and nice and they smiled which was a nice change. Then, they left and just the guide and I had dinner together on the floor, eating with our hands. It was really cool. I found out how to shovel food in my mouth; you use your thumb to slide it in. Ha. THe little things. It was a shanti, peaceful and entertaining experience, real, local, completely outside of the tourist experiences I had had up to now.
Anyway, it's late now (10:45, it's dead quiet out there, dead cold in here, and for the first time since being in India, completely peaceful. Maybe I'll write more. I'm not sure whether I'm tired or not, though i got only 4 hours last night, but I'm gonna throw on a movie and have a couple drinks and a smoke and hopefully fall asleep before the water bottles lose their niceness.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Jan. 5-6
Jan 5
Wow. Woke up this morning, it was freezing. I managed to sleep relatively well despite it, thanks to a millions layers of protection but it was damn cold. I think this is the coldest weather I’ve ever slept in, colder even than Nature, but I was more fortified so I felt it less. Unfortunately, I think my computer was affected by it. I even thought about keeping her warm and put the covers over her, but covers only work to keep in warmth that's being generated from within, it doesn’t really do anything if there’s no warmth to begin with. So, I tried using the rjs on the computer today and it wouldn’t register. I hope it’s not permanent or I’m going to have serious problems getting work in and out. At the same time, my cell phone’s memory chip has been acting up, causing me to lose a lot of pics, and my usb flash memory won’t format so I can’t even use that. Basically, it’s not as bad as a total system failure, but it’s seriously hindering my abilities to get work off and onto my computer, getting pics and a slew of other things that are necessary to my functioning properly here.
These hot water bottles do wonders. They keep their heat for a few hours only, unfortunately, but they are very effective while they’re hot. I think though, that I’ve had enough of battling with the cold. If I wanted to be cold I’d have stayed in Montreal. And at this price, it makes no sense to stay here. So, tomorrow, I’ll wake up early, and leave for Jammu, then onward to Amritsar. I’m a little sorry to leave the family behind, but I feel too confined here, confined to the island, confined by the cold, just plain old confined.
Got quite a bit of sleep last night so I wonder if I’ll manage to get to sleep soon but I hope so. The sooner I sleep the earlier I can get up and the less time I’ll spend sleeping without the comfort of the water bottles. I think I’ll bring the laptop closer today to my body and hope that it’ll not get as cold as yesterday. I would feel terrible if things got worse or even if the network port were dead permanently. I always thought it would work better in the cold but I guess not. I can’t see what else would be at the root of the problem, but right now, it’s weighing pretty heavily on me.
I’m gonna miss this family though. It was so refreshing spending time with them. Cindit, Bilal, and Lilu are awesome, a lot of fun and the old man, he’s a good man, but you can see that life has not been to good to him. I realized that I simply don’t understand the family structure. It got confusing, partly I think because they were playing with me, partly because they call the other brother or sister often and that was throwing me off.
I can’t say I’ve seen much of srinigar, it’s been cloud covered and foggy the whole time I’ve been here but what I have seen has been really nice and a taste is all I wanted and I’m satisfied to leave it at that. Maybe I’ll come back in a few years and see the family again, that would be nice, in summer of course. Meantime, unless they make me an offer I can’t refuse, I’m going to be heading back into the black sun, polluted skies, noisy calm of the rest of india, but also back to the colors which lack here, the warmth and the new adventures that await me.
That’s all I have for now. Signing off.
Jan 6
I’m stuck in srinigar, just my luck , I get here and the next day it snows. But as if that weren’t bad enough, the next day it snows even harder. Now the pass through the Himalayas is closed and there is no way to get through just yet. Maybe another day and the roads will be cleared. In the meantime I must make do with what I have at my disposal, but, do not mistake my comments for chagrin, they are far from that. Though I am stuck here and being stuck is never consoling, if there is any place that I’d be happy to be stuck in it is this place. I’ll explain why.
First of all I renegotiated the price and managed to bring it down to 300Rs. That’s a great thing considering I was paying 500 just a day ago and that the average price is considerably higher, and that the average price of a budget hotel room, single room is 300. Meanwhile, I have a whole houseboat to myself. So, that’s a wonderful and unique thing, I believe. Secondly, my laptop is fine. My network port works fine, it was either the internet shop I went to or a temporary cold driven glitch. So I feel relieved in a way I cannot explain. So, even if I ‘m locked away here for a few days, I can work. Thirdly, in addition to this wonderful family that has taken me in in ways I could only have dreamed of, I’ve made another friend here at a neighboring hotel who has been very welcoming and warm. Son of a rich agriculturalist and carpet manufacturer, he sat with me, offered me some tea and biscuits and we talked for about an hour and a half, but I’ll get to that in a minute. So, yes I am stuck here but I am stuck under the most magnificent circumstances and in a fantastic place.
Before I continue, let me say a little something about my day. I woke up late, my alarm didn’t’ go off because I set it for the wrong day. Mistake number one but in the end a blessing. I got up around 10 or so. I had planned on getting up around 7:30 to catch the bus or jeep to jammu and continue on my journey. It was not to be. I awoke to a snow filled landscape and another day of fog covered horizons, but I wasn’t cold, surprisingly. I didn’t even put on the faron I was given and I walked over to the family’s home to bring back the water bottles and inform them that if possible I’d be leaving. They sat me down for some tea before I had the chance to say anything. Eventually I got the words out but it didn’t matter, by then it was too late to leave anyway, the buses and jeep only leave before 11, and usually more like 8, since the ride is long and driving at night is highly discouraged, for security and safety reasons. So, I sat with them, they offered me winter wives which I generally refused, they gave me tea and cornflakes in hot milk and we talked and hung out. It was nice. They were all in a great mood for reasons I didn’t know but didn’t care too much about. Eventually, I decided, for lack of cigarettes and a feeling that I shouldn’t hang out there too long, that I should move and walk around, maybe get online if there was anywhere else available other than the place that charged me 80Rs an hour. So, I got up and wished everyone a good day. In the meantime, I paid Ghulam, father and patriarch of the family the 500 I owed him for the night and explained I would be sleeping elsewhere as I got a cheaper price. Upon hearing this, he offered to match the price and so I decided at 300 that it was worth staying on the boat and being close to the family for one more night.
As I left, a man from the house boat Owners’ travel Association who had paid them a visit was also leaving. I left, walked to the end of the peer and stood there admiring my surroundings, waiting for a small and cheaper shikara to show up, allowing me to cross for 1Rs. It didn’t show by the time Feroz, the man from the HBOTA showed up next to me. He asked if I was crossing and suspecting he didn’t have the best of intentions, said yes but I was in no hurry and was waiting for a small shikara. He stood next to me and waited with me, asking me random questions in his poor English. He wanted to get across too. After a couple minutes he had had enough waiting and said he could get us a large shikara for 10Rs. Well, I was a little curious as to how he’d play this out, so I said I’d go with him. He called one, it came we got on and in the end he didn’t offer to pay his half. I suspected as much. He then asked where I was going, I told him I was walking and that I needed to get smokes first. He walked the 20 feet with me to the store offered to arrange for the sale, I agreed then, he asked me if I would get him a pack, I laughed in an obvious facetious manner and agreed, but clearly not appreciating the request. It didn’t bother him and I got 3 packs, one for me, one for Ghulam and one for him. Then, without saying thank you he wished me a good day and walked away. Typical. Anyway, I decided I’d walk in the direction of the hotel I had falsely told Ghulam that I had made a deal with curious to see it. I walked to it, then passed it, then, curious about it, walked back to it and knocked on the door. I was greeted by a Nepalese worker who understood no English and who had me come in while he got the manager/owner. This was the start of a new mini-friendship. The owner, Rouf, was a young man, very open, very welcoming, who spoke quite good English. A Kashmiri who had obviously had an impressive education. He even knew where Haiti was. He offered to show me the rooms, which I agreed to, and showed me a couple rooms, all with brightly and newly painted walls, clean floors, good bathrooms, in fact, by Indian standards, immaculate. I was very impressed, but more than that I was impressed with his candor and openness. We walked back to the reception and he had tea brought in and biscuits and we talked. All in all for over an hour and a half, about a range of topics. He was a good man, and unlike most of the men I’ve known, he asked nothing of me and in the end offered his internet connection and a free ride around town the next day if I happened to still be in town, at no charge. I ended up telling him that I didn’t work for the lonely Planet but was authorized to post comments, and that I would gladly recommend his hotel, all of which is true and I plan on it, because his warmth and accommodation was purely from a level of enjoyment and without gain. He never even tried to sell me a room. I was so impressed.
After being recharged by the experience I decided to see if that alternate internet shop was open and see if I could find an ATM, as I’d need it the next day for the jeep or bus and to pay for the room for an extra day. The shop was closed but the ATM was close by and I used it and the security guard who came in there with me, making me a little nervous did something strange. Not only did he stand next to me the whole time I was withdrawing my money, but when it came out of the machine, he reached in and grabbed the money. It occurred to me that I might have to end up fighting for it, but he handed the money directly to me. Strange but interesting. With the confidence of having money, I chose to get some food from the nearby Dhaba, ate a veg meal and went on my way back to the family home as a few hours had passed.
I got there, was ushered in, offered tea and a winter wife, asked how my day was, and made comfortable. I hung around talked to the children mostly and as usual they ended up asking about my cell, or laptop or this or that. Sameer, asked me to teach him how to download files from the cell onto the laptop. I opened up the laptop and showed him. That opened up a whole series of computer lessons, which I was more than happy to provide. In the meantime the girls wanted to see my girlfriend. I didn’t go into the details, didn’t tell them we weren’t actually together and why, I saw no reason to and was all too happy to show them the 2 pictures Erin had sent me of us together with friends. In the end, hours were spent showing them things, teaching them things, taking pictures of them, taking down their email addresses. It was all soooo shanty. The family really seemed comfortable with me by then, even laughing at my poor attempts at Kashmiri and letting me know that they would miss me. It was so nice. I told them I would too. Long story made short, in the end I let them be around 10:30 and came to the boat. Ghulam wasn’t ready for sleep just yet and I offered him some rum as a substitute for the charas he usually smokes and he joined me in the houseboat for a couple drinks and we talked. It was nice. I think he finally actually let me in, after a night of seeing me patiently and openly let the kids have at it on my laptop and providing them with lessons, he saw me not as a tourist to be taken advantage of but as a person with a heart that he could appreciate, who wanted good things for him and his family. He left after a few drinks and many smiles, feeling good and knowing I was grateful for his hospitality. I will write him a good but honest review on LP. In the end, the day was even better than the previous. I felt more like a family member and less like a tourist than ever and the family accepted me more than they had before and we shared laughs, all of us on multiple occasions, genuine, heartfelt moments that I hope to remember forever. It was, in fact, my most genuine Indian day, though really it was not an Indian day but a kashmiri one. From eating with my hands at a Dhaba to hanging with 2 different sets of good people, I enjoyed this experience more than any other on this trip, save the moments that I really enjoyed with my own family. Things are looking up, and it is because of this that I don’t mind, am not stressed and don’t’ fear being stuck here a few more days. I only hope my budget will allow for it and that I can leave a parting gift to the family as well.
So, that being said and me not finding any more words to say, I leave the 6th behind and look forward to the 6th, when Hakim will show me around town, as he offered, if that’s still on the table. It should be interesting. Then, if all goes well, the roads will be clear and I can leave the following day and make my way to Amritsar, recharged by these moments and for the first time, truly excited about continuing this journey into the heart of India.
Time for another drink, another smoke and a movie.
Wow. Woke up this morning, it was freezing. I managed to sleep relatively well despite it, thanks to a millions layers of protection but it was damn cold. I think this is the coldest weather I’ve ever slept in, colder even than Nature, but I was more fortified so I felt it less. Unfortunately, I think my computer was affected by it. I even thought about keeping her warm and put the covers over her, but covers only work to keep in warmth that's being generated from within, it doesn’t really do anything if there’s no warmth to begin with. So, I tried using the rjs on the computer today and it wouldn’t register. I hope it’s not permanent or I’m going to have serious problems getting work in and out. At the same time, my cell phone’s memory chip has been acting up, causing me to lose a lot of pics, and my usb flash memory won’t format so I can’t even use that. Basically, it’s not as bad as a total system failure, but it’s seriously hindering my abilities to get work off and onto my computer, getting pics and a slew of other things that are necessary to my functioning properly here.
These hot water bottles do wonders. They keep their heat for a few hours only, unfortunately, but they are very effective while they’re hot. I think though, that I’ve had enough of battling with the cold. If I wanted to be cold I’d have stayed in Montreal. And at this price, it makes no sense to stay here. So, tomorrow, I’ll wake up early, and leave for Jammu, then onward to Amritsar. I’m a little sorry to leave the family behind, but I feel too confined here, confined to the island, confined by the cold, just plain old confined.
Got quite a bit of sleep last night so I wonder if I’ll manage to get to sleep soon but I hope so. The sooner I sleep the earlier I can get up and the less time I’ll spend sleeping without the comfort of the water bottles. I think I’ll bring the laptop closer today to my body and hope that it’ll not get as cold as yesterday. I would feel terrible if things got worse or even if the network port were dead permanently. I always thought it would work better in the cold but I guess not. I can’t see what else would be at the root of the problem, but right now, it’s weighing pretty heavily on me.
I’m gonna miss this family though. It was so refreshing spending time with them. Cindit, Bilal, and Lilu are awesome, a lot of fun and the old man, he’s a good man, but you can see that life has not been to good to him. I realized that I simply don’t understand the family structure. It got confusing, partly I think because they were playing with me, partly because they call the other brother or sister often and that was throwing me off.
I can’t say I’ve seen much of srinigar, it’s been cloud covered and foggy the whole time I’ve been here but what I have seen has been really nice and a taste is all I wanted and I’m satisfied to leave it at that. Maybe I’ll come back in a few years and see the family again, that would be nice, in summer of course. Meantime, unless they make me an offer I can’t refuse, I’m going to be heading back into the black sun, polluted skies, noisy calm of the rest of india, but also back to the colors which lack here, the warmth and the new adventures that await me.
That’s all I have for now. Signing off.
Jan 6
I’m stuck in srinigar, just my luck , I get here and the next day it snows. But as if that weren’t bad enough, the next day it snows even harder. Now the pass through the Himalayas is closed and there is no way to get through just yet. Maybe another day and the roads will be cleared. In the meantime I must make do with what I have at my disposal, but, do not mistake my comments for chagrin, they are far from that. Though I am stuck here and being stuck is never consoling, if there is any place that I’d be happy to be stuck in it is this place. I’ll explain why.
First of all I renegotiated the price and managed to bring it down to 300Rs. That’s a great thing considering I was paying 500 just a day ago and that the average price is considerably higher, and that the average price of a budget hotel room, single room is 300. Meanwhile, I have a whole houseboat to myself. So, that’s a wonderful and unique thing, I believe. Secondly, my laptop is fine. My network port works fine, it was either the internet shop I went to or a temporary cold driven glitch. So I feel relieved in a way I cannot explain. So, even if I ‘m locked away here for a few days, I can work. Thirdly, in addition to this wonderful family that has taken me in in ways I could only have dreamed of, I’ve made another friend here at a neighboring hotel who has been very welcoming and warm. Son of a rich agriculturalist and carpet manufacturer, he sat with me, offered me some tea and biscuits and we talked for about an hour and a half, but I’ll get to that in a minute. So, yes I am stuck here but I am stuck under the most magnificent circumstances and in a fantastic place.
Before I continue, let me say a little something about my day. I woke up late, my alarm didn’t’ go off because I set it for the wrong day. Mistake number one but in the end a blessing. I got up around 10 or so. I had planned on getting up around 7:30 to catch the bus or jeep to jammu and continue on my journey. It was not to be. I awoke to a snow filled landscape and another day of fog covered horizons, but I wasn’t cold, surprisingly. I didn’t even put on the faron I was given and I walked over to the family’s home to bring back the water bottles and inform them that if possible I’d be leaving. They sat me down for some tea before I had the chance to say anything. Eventually I got the words out but it didn’t matter, by then it was too late to leave anyway, the buses and jeep only leave before 11, and usually more like 8, since the ride is long and driving at night is highly discouraged, for security and safety reasons. So, I sat with them, they offered me winter wives which I generally refused, they gave me tea and cornflakes in hot milk and we talked and hung out. It was nice. They were all in a great mood for reasons I didn’t know but didn’t care too much about. Eventually, I decided, for lack of cigarettes and a feeling that I shouldn’t hang out there too long, that I should move and walk around, maybe get online if there was anywhere else available other than the place that charged me 80Rs an hour. So, I got up and wished everyone a good day. In the meantime, I paid Ghulam, father and patriarch of the family the 500 I owed him for the night and explained I would be sleeping elsewhere as I got a cheaper price. Upon hearing this, he offered to match the price and so I decided at 300 that it was worth staying on the boat and being close to the family for one more night.
As I left, a man from the house boat Owners’ travel Association who had paid them a visit was also leaving. I left, walked to the end of the peer and stood there admiring my surroundings, waiting for a small and cheaper shikara to show up, allowing me to cross for 1Rs. It didn’t show by the time Feroz, the man from the HBOTA showed up next to me. He asked if I was crossing and suspecting he didn’t have the best of intentions, said yes but I was in no hurry and was waiting for a small shikara. He stood next to me and waited with me, asking me random questions in his poor English. He wanted to get across too. After a couple minutes he had had enough waiting and said he could get us a large shikara for 10Rs. Well, I was a little curious as to how he’d play this out, so I said I’d go with him. He called one, it came we got on and in the end he didn’t offer to pay his half. I suspected as much. He then asked where I was going, I told him I was walking and that I needed to get smokes first. He walked the 20 feet with me to the store offered to arrange for the sale, I agreed then, he asked me if I would get him a pack, I laughed in an obvious facetious manner and agreed, but clearly not appreciating the request. It didn’t bother him and I got 3 packs, one for me, one for Ghulam and one for him. Then, without saying thank you he wished me a good day and walked away. Typical. Anyway, I decided I’d walk in the direction of the hotel I had falsely told Ghulam that I had made a deal with curious to see it. I walked to it, then passed it, then, curious about it, walked back to it and knocked on the door. I was greeted by a Nepalese worker who understood no English and who had me come in while he got the manager/owner. This was the start of a new mini-friendship. The owner, Rouf, was a young man, very open, very welcoming, who spoke quite good English. A Kashmiri who had obviously had an impressive education. He even knew where Haiti was. He offered to show me the rooms, which I agreed to, and showed me a couple rooms, all with brightly and newly painted walls, clean floors, good bathrooms, in fact, by Indian standards, immaculate. I was very impressed, but more than that I was impressed with his candor and openness. We walked back to the reception and he had tea brought in and biscuits and we talked. All in all for over an hour and a half, about a range of topics. He was a good man, and unlike most of the men I’ve known, he asked nothing of me and in the end offered his internet connection and a free ride around town the next day if I happened to still be in town, at no charge. I ended up telling him that I didn’t work for the lonely Planet but was authorized to post comments, and that I would gladly recommend his hotel, all of which is true and I plan on it, because his warmth and accommodation was purely from a level of enjoyment and without gain. He never even tried to sell me a room. I was so impressed.
After being recharged by the experience I decided to see if that alternate internet shop was open and see if I could find an ATM, as I’d need it the next day for the jeep or bus and to pay for the room for an extra day. The shop was closed but the ATM was close by and I used it and the security guard who came in there with me, making me a little nervous did something strange. Not only did he stand next to me the whole time I was withdrawing my money, but when it came out of the machine, he reached in and grabbed the money. It occurred to me that I might have to end up fighting for it, but he handed the money directly to me. Strange but interesting. With the confidence of having money, I chose to get some food from the nearby Dhaba, ate a veg meal and went on my way back to the family home as a few hours had passed.
I got there, was ushered in, offered tea and a winter wife, asked how my day was, and made comfortable. I hung around talked to the children mostly and as usual they ended up asking about my cell, or laptop or this or that. Sameer, asked me to teach him how to download files from the cell onto the laptop. I opened up the laptop and showed him. That opened up a whole series of computer lessons, which I was more than happy to provide. In the meantime the girls wanted to see my girlfriend. I didn’t go into the details, didn’t tell them we weren’t actually together and why, I saw no reason to and was all too happy to show them the 2 pictures Erin had sent me of us together with friends. In the end, hours were spent showing them things, teaching them things, taking pictures of them, taking down their email addresses. It was all soooo shanty. The family really seemed comfortable with me by then, even laughing at my poor attempts at Kashmiri and letting me know that they would miss me. It was so nice. I told them I would too. Long story made short, in the end I let them be around 10:30 and came to the boat. Ghulam wasn’t ready for sleep just yet and I offered him some rum as a substitute for the charas he usually smokes and he joined me in the houseboat for a couple drinks and we talked. It was nice. I think he finally actually let me in, after a night of seeing me patiently and openly let the kids have at it on my laptop and providing them with lessons, he saw me not as a tourist to be taken advantage of but as a person with a heart that he could appreciate, who wanted good things for him and his family. He left after a few drinks and many smiles, feeling good and knowing I was grateful for his hospitality. I will write him a good but honest review on LP. In the end, the day was even better than the previous. I felt more like a family member and less like a tourist than ever and the family accepted me more than they had before and we shared laughs, all of us on multiple occasions, genuine, heartfelt moments that I hope to remember forever. It was, in fact, my most genuine Indian day, though really it was not an Indian day but a kashmiri one. From eating with my hands at a Dhaba to hanging with 2 different sets of good people, I enjoyed this experience more than any other on this trip, save the moments that I really enjoyed with my own family. Things are looking up, and it is because of this that I don’t mind, am not stressed and don’t’ fear being stuck here a few more days. I only hope my budget will allow for it and that I can leave a parting gift to the family as well.
So, that being said and me not finding any more words to say, I leave the 6th behind and look forward to the 6th, when Hakim will show me around town, as he offered, if that’s still on the table. It should be interesting. Then, if all goes well, the roads will be clear and I can leave the following day and make my way to Amritsar, recharged by these moments and for the first time, truly excited about continuing this journey into the heart of India.
Time for another drink, another smoke and a movie.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Jan 7
So, yep, I am stuck in srinigar. Roads were closed today due to that snowfall 2 days ago, and yet another night will need to be spent here on this houseboat that has quickly begun to feel like home. No TV, no running water, no heating, no hot water. I haven’t showered since I left Delhi about 5 days ago, but I couldn’t care less. I get up in the morning take a piss, brush my teeth, wash my hands and face with freezing water, put on my faron and go have tea with the family. Despite minus temperatures I’m usually not that cold in the morning.
Today, was just like the others, though I was supposed to go on that drive around town, I honestly didn’t really feel like it and hoped it would be cancelled. Just my luck it was. I never really expected it and was thinking I’d be gone from here by then anyway, but in the end it all worked out. Woke up round 12, hung out with Ghulam, then took off in search of something, partly smokes, partly just some sort of experience. I got my smokes and headed to the Swiss hotel, hoping maybe to share some more moments with Rouf and see if maybe I could use his internet. Wasn’t to be, got there and he wasn’t there but his younger brother greeted me, offered me some tea, then left me alone in the lobby. I finished my tea and started walking. Got to an internet café, logged on, sent out a bunch of emails that had been waiting in my outbox for a connection, chatted with Erin for a while then payed my 20rs and left. And I walked, and I walked and I walked, just taking it in, not knowing where I was going, not interested, feeling pretty confident that I knew where I was and could get back on my own even without the rickshaw. There seem to be a lot more women walking around Srinigar than the rest of India. It’s strange. I would have expected the opposite considering this was a muslim area, but it was nice to see. They’re so light skinned, it such an oddity, but this is mountain land, cold for a large part of the year, it makes sense they’d have lost their melanin. I walked for 2 hours. I got pretty far then slowly made my way back. On the way I stopped at a restaurant that had whole grilled chickens in the window and asked how much they were, and eventually settled on a whole tandoori chicken and a mutton kebab. I wanted to surprise the family. They don’t eat meat often as it’s too expensive so I thought this would be a nice treat. It was the least I could do, though in truth I’d been giving them lots of treats and the total cost of my expenditures far outweighed what I would have spent in a hotel, but it felt right and I had no regrets. I continued my walk back, grabbed a coke and a mango juice for the remainder of my rum for tonight and headed back to the family with my small present. They were all there, happy to see me. Was like coming home. I gave them the bags and told them it was a surprise for dinner. Then sat down and we all started talking, they watched tv, did what they usually do, which, if I’m not mistaken is generally nothing. It’s strange, but all they do is watch tv. Indians and indeed kashmiris love their tv. Every home has a tv, and a few cells. They love computers and cell phones. Can’t get enough of it. A few minutes after I arrived Ruby asked to have the laptop so she could play around. I brought it out and she dove straight into Paint. The other girls just sat around watching tv, engaging in conversation with me. It was all pretty chilled out. Round 7 I found out the roads were open, so I informed them I’d be leaving the next day. Then, Ayesha (Cindit) asked me to teach her some English and that started about an hour of English lessons. Both Ayesha and Adi were taking down notes, asking questions. I realized teaching English without a curriculum is not easy but I did my best. Adi, on her piece of paper, let me know she had a crush on me. It was surprising seeing as she knew I had a girlfriend, but maybe having a girlfriend in the muslim world doesn’t mean much, especially when a man can have 4 wives. She asked if I liked her too. Ha. I wrote down that I thought she was beautiful and an amazing person and that I would have considered myself honored to be with a woman like her. All of it true, but at the same time, avoiding leading her on. I had images of the father pulling out a shotgun or something and chasing me into Dal Lake. Ha. I think Ayesha has a crush on me too. They’re so cute these girls. They really make me smile. They have good hearts. Truth be told though, if I were a kashmiri man, living here and not already given to someone I would definitely be after them. Ayesha wrote a short note in my diary, Adi and I played a game on paper, adding a letter to another letter in order to create words, however long the word created was equaled the number of points. It was very cute. Ayesha and I play fought. Ha. I was beginning to worry though that the affections being displayed would begin to worry the parents, even though it seemed very much like family fun. In the end, the mother was beginning to get tired, I gave sameer a hug as I knew I wouldn’t see him the next day, said good night to the others who would be around when I wake up, and came to the boat to look at the pics Erin had sent me earlier, read the emails I had gotten today finally after days of nothing and began typing. It was another good day. I’ll be sad to leave here, and not looking forward to the next 24 hours, but it has to be done. I feel too disconnected here, physically and mentally to work and to the rest of my trip and it’s damn cold ALL the time. I’ve spent more hours sitting on my ass on the hard floor than ever before. I’ve eaten more meals with my hands than I ever thought I would, had dinner in the tiny kitchen of the family, walked through the streets of srinigar feeling safe and open. I am so happy I made the decision to come up here. It has really given my trip a new light and given me a reason to move on. Yes, I have moments of feeling like I’m ready to go home, a hot shower, drinks with friends, the security of full internet access, heating at home, Duncan, Jad, Tito and all the other beautiful people, but I feel a certain peace here as well, shattered only when I think of work.
I feel like I’ll be genuinely missed here, like the family will bring me up in their conversations at times, maybe when they watch the video that I sing along to, Gomei Abbas, Taran taran. Haha. They always laugh at me when I try to sing it, or when I try to say anything in Kashmiri and manage to make it work. They think I’m cute and the mother calls me her son with a great big smile on a hardened face. It's a great site to behold.
Gotta wake up at 8 or so tomorrow, head out to see if I can catch a jeep to Jammu and hopefully I can grab a train there tomorrow rather than having to stay a night in Jammu. Didn’t really like Jammu much. Nothing much to see, nothing stands out about it. Anyway, we’ll see where I end up.
Appendix :
Wow, that was a weird experience. 2 in the morning, I hear my name outside the window and like a scene from a movie, it’s the local girl come to have a last moment with the roaming traveler brought into the home by the father. Man, it was sweet and daring on her part, knowing the consequences that could arise, but I have to admit, I got scared. For a few reasons, I know that she would get in serious trouble, I know I could get in serious trouble, and it’s not like I could quickly run away even if I wanted to. I’m surrounded by near freezing water in a foreign land, and word would travel quick if I was wanted for any reason. I’m still paranoid. Luckily she didn’t stay long but that doesn’t really mean anything. Fact is, all it would take was one shitty second and I would be seen as a defiler, regardless of whether something were to happen or not. Anyway, she came in, sat down, and said she wanted to see me once more before I left because she wouldn’t see me the next day. So, I said, well I have to give you your hug now then. Hoping to terminate this rather awkward moment I extended my hand to get her to stand up, gave her a hug, she pulled me in, gave me a kiss on the cheek and tried moving in a bit closer. Ha. Unreal. Never in my wildest dreams did I think this would end my kashmiri experience. I pulled away politely and slowly and with a smile reminded her that I had a girlfriend, to which she responded that she had a boyfriend too. I laughed. She laughed, but she understood. I told her I was happy she stopped by and that I would have been disappointed to not see her before I left. She stood there, hoping time would change my mind, but in truth, despite the fact that she’s a beautiful girl, and even aside from the fact that I see myself with Erin, though we have both agreed that we’re free to follow whatever paths we choose, this just felt wrong. I just felt a little trapped. In the end, she took my hand, gave it a squeeze and walked out. I followed her to the door, wished her good night, and she walked away. But wait, then when she gets close to her house, her neighbors dog starts barking. Man, my heart was racing, then, for whatever reasons, I couldn’t see cause of the darkness she hit something that rattled. OH MY GOD. As if that wasn’t enough, I wasn’t sure whether the 2 noises had woken anyone up, but I looked across the water to the neighboring houseboat and I saw a shadow, a man, just standing there. Dude, I thought I would die the next day in Kashmir. I walked back to my room, shut off the light so I could peer behind the curtain without being seen and it was still there. I walked over to the living room and looked again but now it seemed more like a simple trick of the eye played by light than a person. Phew. I can’t say I’m 100% sure, but I’m pretty sure it wasn’t a person. Sides I hadn’t seen anyone there since I’ve been here, it was really late, very cold and the person wasn’t smoking a cigarette so the chances of it being a person are pretty slim. Hopefully, I won’t die tomorrow for suspicion of lascivious acts. But also, i would never want the family to think of me that way, to have all the moments wiped away by the idea of me taking advantage of their innocent girl. Ugh.
All of this right as I was about to call it a night. I think I’m ready now tho for sure. Enough for one day. I'm not gonna sleep well tonight. I keep hearing noises, thinking someone's coming after me. A muslim girl sneeking out of the house for any reason sounds like a crime punishable by death to me right, for her and for whoever she snuck out to see. I'm so on edge right now. Every noise and my breathing stops so i can better hear. This is one of the few times I've felt in danger since I've been here.
Today, was just like the others, though I was supposed to go on that drive around town, I honestly didn’t really feel like it and hoped it would be cancelled. Just my luck it was. I never really expected it and was thinking I’d be gone from here by then anyway, but in the end it all worked out. Woke up round 12, hung out with Ghulam, then took off in search of something, partly smokes, partly just some sort of experience. I got my smokes and headed to the Swiss hotel, hoping maybe to share some more moments with Rouf and see if maybe I could use his internet. Wasn’t to be, got there and he wasn’t there but his younger brother greeted me, offered me some tea, then left me alone in the lobby. I finished my tea and started walking. Got to an internet café, logged on, sent out a bunch of emails that had been waiting in my outbox for a connection, chatted with Erin for a while then payed my 20rs and left. And I walked, and I walked and I walked, just taking it in, not knowing where I was going, not interested, feeling pretty confident that I knew where I was and could get back on my own even without the rickshaw. There seem to be a lot more women walking around Srinigar than the rest of India. It’s strange. I would have expected the opposite considering this was a muslim area, but it was nice to see. They’re so light skinned, it such an oddity, but this is mountain land, cold for a large part of the year, it makes sense they’d have lost their melanin. I walked for 2 hours. I got pretty far then slowly made my way back. On the way I stopped at a restaurant that had whole grilled chickens in the window and asked how much they were, and eventually settled on a whole tandoori chicken and a mutton kebab. I wanted to surprise the family. They don’t eat meat often as it’s too expensive so I thought this would be a nice treat. It was the least I could do, though in truth I’d been giving them lots of treats and the total cost of my expenditures far outweighed what I would have spent in a hotel, but it felt right and I had no regrets. I continued my walk back, grabbed a coke and a mango juice for the remainder of my rum for tonight and headed back to the family with my small present. They were all there, happy to see me. Was like coming home. I gave them the bags and told them it was a surprise for dinner. Then sat down and we all started talking, they watched tv, did what they usually do, which, if I’m not mistaken is generally nothing. It’s strange, but all they do is watch tv. Indians and indeed kashmiris love their tv. Every home has a tv, and a few cells. They love computers and cell phones. Can’t get enough of it. A few minutes after I arrived Ruby asked to have the laptop so she could play around. I brought it out and she dove straight into Paint. The other girls just sat around watching tv, engaging in conversation with me. It was all pretty chilled out. Round 7 I found out the roads were open, so I informed them I’d be leaving the next day. Then, Ayesha (Cindit) asked me to teach her some English and that started about an hour of English lessons. Both Ayesha and Adi were taking down notes, asking questions. I realized teaching English without a curriculum is not easy but I did my best. Adi, on her piece of paper, let me know she had a crush on me. It was surprising seeing as she knew I had a girlfriend, but maybe having a girlfriend in the muslim world doesn’t mean much, especially when a man can have 4 wives. She asked if I liked her too. Ha. I wrote down that I thought she was beautiful and an amazing person and that I would have considered myself honored to be with a woman like her. All of it true, but at the same time, avoiding leading her on. I had images of the father pulling out a shotgun or something and chasing me into Dal Lake. Ha. I think Ayesha has a crush on me too. They’re so cute these girls. They really make me smile. They have good hearts. Truth be told though, if I were a kashmiri man, living here and not already given to someone I would definitely be after them. Ayesha wrote a short note in my diary, Adi and I played a game on paper, adding a letter to another letter in order to create words, however long the word created was equaled the number of points. It was very cute. Ayesha and I play fought. Ha. I was beginning to worry though that the affections being displayed would begin to worry the parents, even though it seemed very much like family fun. In the end, the mother was beginning to get tired, I gave sameer a hug as I knew I wouldn’t see him the next day, said good night to the others who would be around when I wake up, and came to the boat to look at the pics Erin had sent me earlier, read the emails I had gotten today finally after days of nothing and began typing. It was another good day. I’ll be sad to leave here, and not looking forward to the next 24 hours, but it has to be done. I feel too disconnected here, physically and mentally to work and to the rest of my trip and it’s damn cold ALL the time. I’ve spent more hours sitting on my ass on the hard floor than ever before. I’ve eaten more meals with my hands than I ever thought I would, had dinner in the tiny kitchen of the family, walked through the streets of srinigar feeling safe and open. I am so happy I made the decision to come up here. It has really given my trip a new light and given me a reason to move on. Yes, I have moments of feeling like I’m ready to go home, a hot shower, drinks with friends, the security of full internet access, heating at home, Duncan, Jad, Tito and all the other beautiful people, but I feel a certain peace here as well, shattered only when I think of work.
I feel like I’ll be genuinely missed here, like the family will bring me up in their conversations at times, maybe when they watch the video that I sing along to, Gomei Abbas, Taran taran. Haha. They always laugh at me when I try to sing it, or when I try to say anything in Kashmiri and manage to make it work. They think I’m cute and the mother calls me her son with a great big smile on a hardened face. It's a great site to behold.
Gotta wake up at 8 or so tomorrow, head out to see if I can catch a jeep to Jammu and hopefully I can grab a train there tomorrow rather than having to stay a night in Jammu. Didn’t really like Jammu much. Nothing much to see, nothing stands out about it. Anyway, we’ll see where I end up.
Appendix :
Wow, that was a weird experience. 2 in the morning, I hear my name outside the window and like a scene from a movie, it’s the local girl come to have a last moment with the roaming traveler brought into the home by the father. Man, it was sweet and daring on her part, knowing the consequences that could arise, but I have to admit, I got scared. For a few reasons, I know that she would get in serious trouble, I know I could get in serious trouble, and it’s not like I could quickly run away even if I wanted to. I’m surrounded by near freezing water in a foreign land, and word would travel quick if I was wanted for any reason. I’m still paranoid. Luckily she didn’t stay long but that doesn’t really mean anything. Fact is, all it would take was one shitty second and I would be seen as a defiler, regardless of whether something were to happen or not. Anyway, she came in, sat down, and said she wanted to see me once more before I left because she wouldn’t see me the next day. So, I said, well I have to give you your hug now then. Hoping to terminate this rather awkward moment I extended my hand to get her to stand up, gave her a hug, she pulled me in, gave me a kiss on the cheek and tried moving in a bit closer. Ha. Unreal. Never in my wildest dreams did I think this would end my kashmiri experience. I pulled away politely and slowly and with a smile reminded her that I had a girlfriend, to which she responded that she had a boyfriend too. I laughed. She laughed, but she understood. I told her I was happy she stopped by and that I would have been disappointed to not see her before I left. She stood there, hoping time would change my mind, but in truth, despite the fact that she’s a beautiful girl, and even aside from the fact that I see myself with Erin, though we have both agreed that we’re free to follow whatever paths we choose, this just felt wrong. I just felt a little trapped. In the end, she took my hand, gave it a squeeze and walked out. I followed her to the door, wished her good night, and she walked away. But wait, then when she gets close to her house, her neighbors dog starts barking. Man, my heart was racing, then, for whatever reasons, I couldn’t see cause of the darkness she hit something that rattled. OH MY GOD. As if that wasn’t enough, I wasn’t sure whether the 2 noises had woken anyone up, but I looked across the water to the neighboring houseboat and I saw a shadow, a man, just standing there. Dude, I thought I would die the next day in Kashmir. I walked back to my room, shut off the light so I could peer behind the curtain without being seen and it was still there. I walked over to the living room and looked again but now it seemed more like a simple trick of the eye played by light than a person. Phew. I can’t say I’m 100% sure, but I’m pretty sure it wasn’t a person. Sides I hadn’t seen anyone there since I’ve been here, it was really late, very cold and the person wasn’t smoking a cigarette so the chances of it being a person are pretty slim. Hopefully, I won’t die tomorrow for suspicion of lascivious acts. But also, i would never want the family to think of me that way, to have all the moments wiped away by the idea of me taking advantage of their innocent girl. Ugh.
All of this right as I was about to call it a night. I think I’m ready now tho for sure. Enough for one day. I'm not gonna sleep well tonight. I keep hearing noises, thinking someone's coming after me. A muslim girl sneeking out of the house for any reason sounds like a crime punishable by death to me right, for her and for whoever she snuck out to see. I'm so on edge right now. Every noise and my breathing stops so i can better hear. This is one of the few times I've felt in danger since I've been here.
Jan 8
IN india, everything's a story. That's what makes travelers seem so interesting. They're not really that interesting, it's just impossible to have regular every day Canadian type experiences in India. Here's my little story, not so interesting but whatever.
So, ya, hadn't showered in 5 or more days. Lost count, in fact I haven't showered since I was with my parents, but I've done the bucket type thing or more accurately kneeling down and using the lower faucets to clean myself a few times, but since delhi I hadn't touched water. The jammu bathroom on the way to srinigar was not inspiring and there was no hot water, and no way i was gonna bathe in srinigar cause it was freezing, the tub was nasty, fuck that. But it didn't bother me all that much, but back in Jammu now, I wanted a shower. I asked the guy if I'd get one for the 300rs and he said yes. So, i finally make my way to a long awaited hot shower in a nasty lil bathroom. I'll just close my eyes and think of england i was thinking. I get undressed step into the bathroom, as the whole bathroom is a shower, it's not like there's a designated shower area, it's just a showerhead sticking out of the wall right. I hate that. The whole bathroom is wet for days, in the case of being up in the north where it's cold. Anyway, fuck it. FUCK IT. I go to turn on the hot water and boom. There's no fucking knob. It must have brokn off. Ugh.I try some Macgyver-esque attempts but nothing, it's too slippery and too tight. So I have to get dressed, I'm pissed by now, and get someone to give me some fucking pliers so I can turn this fucking thing. Anyway, they had no idea what I was talking about, so i asked one of em to come up, they did, he understood, came back a few minutes with pliers, problem solved. Nice. Ok, so time for my shower, I open the hot water full. The old ass rusted fucking showerhead pushes out 5 needle sized lines, I won't even say sprays of water. Lines of water. No real strength to them but it's hot. Fine, wutever. So I take my shower. And you know what, I actually begin to enjoy it. But the whole time I'm thinking of home and how lucky we are for all these little things. A simple thing like a shower. I can't imagine what the kashmiri family would do for one week living in my place. They would never leave. They would stay in, watch tv, be amazed by the fridge, frolic in the tub, spend hours under the shower, cook crazy meals and then of course eat with their hands, but hey, you can't expect that to change, nor should it. Actually eating with hands is kinda cool. Today was my 5th day of doing that, or maybe 4th. Did it in a restaurant today for the second time. People couldn't quite figure me out i think. They see me walk in, i look like a kashmiri but backpack and clothes say otherwise. I sit and order and now they can tell i'm not kashmiri, but when the food arrives, i eat with my hands. Ha. I could see them watching me and asking each other questions, or making comments, definitely making fun of me too. Hehe. I'm not used to having eyes on me all the time, but it happens often in this place. Anyway, I'm clean. I'm clean and I'm warm and in clean clothes and it's beautiful. I've already gotten used to my soiled surroundings and imagine a good sleep. I've set up my sleeping arrangement and am lying in bed finishing off my little journal for the day. Hmm. See, that wasn't really a story at all was it. Anti-cimactic in fact. But that's cause I truly suck at telling stories. IN the hands of the right person, and a small twist at the end, and this would have been a fun story for a traveler to tell a newbie, no? I'll have to add my travel back to Jammu from Srinigar tomorrow. I can't do it now.
Appendix:
So, my day yesterday. Woke up early, after not really sleeping much, got dressed, blah blah, said bye to the family, all of them except for Bilal, who wasn't around, and went on my way. Take a rickshaw to the Somu. I get there, was quoted 450, brought them down to 400, and then realized everyone was paying 3. Fucking hell. Again. I gotta find a way to change this getting jacked thing. I should just take my time fuck. I’m trying. Anyway, it wasn’t nearly as cold this time, but I was stuck in the back, wedged in with 3 other guys. I had no real view and no real way to take pics, not that it mattered since it was rainy and foggy the whole time. Anyway, we seemed to make good time, but towards the end it just dragged on and we found out the road got closed only a couple hours after we had gotten on it, but it was ok as it was closed behind us and not in front. Thank god. As much as I hated leaving, I just felt like I couldn’t stay there anymore. I needed out.
The view was no where as striking as it had been on the way there, the time when I lost all the images. Fuck. But it was ok, I had gotten what I needed and I left satisfied but drained and still lonely. It would get worse as it seems a little while later, but not having seen or talked to another foreigner, was definitely something that colored my experience, both good and bad. Jammu, got in, went straight to the hotel, dropped my bag, went to the net café, sent out some work, lost a client, didn’t care too much, spoke to jad, got some worrying news bout finances, then went to the hotel to end the long day, stopping off for food at a kashmiri meat shop. Ate with my hands, got strange looks, carried on. Got to my room, showered for the first time in ages, and crashed a couple hours later.
So, ya, hadn't showered in 5 or more days. Lost count, in fact I haven't showered since I was with my parents, but I've done the bucket type thing or more accurately kneeling down and using the lower faucets to clean myself a few times, but since delhi I hadn't touched water. The jammu bathroom on the way to srinigar was not inspiring and there was no hot water, and no way i was gonna bathe in srinigar cause it was freezing, the tub was nasty, fuck that. But it didn't bother me all that much, but back in Jammu now, I wanted a shower. I asked the guy if I'd get one for the 300rs and he said yes. So, i finally make my way to a long awaited hot shower in a nasty lil bathroom. I'll just close my eyes and think of england i was thinking. I get undressed step into the bathroom, as the whole bathroom is a shower, it's not like there's a designated shower area, it's just a showerhead sticking out of the wall right. I hate that. The whole bathroom is wet for days, in the case of being up in the north where it's cold. Anyway, fuck it. FUCK IT. I go to turn on the hot water and boom. There's no fucking knob. It must have brokn off. Ugh.I try some Macgyver-esque attempts but nothing, it's too slippery and too tight. So I have to get dressed, I'm pissed by now, and get someone to give me some fucking pliers so I can turn this fucking thing. Anyway, they had no idea what I was talking about, so i asked one of em to come up, they did, he understood, came back a few minutes with pliers, problem solved. Nice. Ok, so time for my shower, I open the hot water full. The old ass rusted fucking showerhead pushes out 5 needle sized lines, I won't even say sprays of water. Lines of water. No real strength to them but it's hot. Fine, wutever. So I take my shower. And you know what, I actually begin to enjoy it. But the whole time I'm thinking of home and how lucky we are for all these little things. A simple thing like a shower. I can't imagine what the kashmiri family would do for one week living in my place. They would never leave. They would stay in, watch tv, be amazed by the fridge, frolic in the tub, spend hours under the shower, cook crazy meals and then of course eat with their hands, but hey, you can't expect that to change, nor should it. Actually eating with hands is kinda cool. Today was my 5th day of doing that, or maybe 4th. Did it in a restaurant today for the second time. People couldn't quite figure me out i think. They see me walk in, i look like a kashmiri but backpack and clothes say otherwise. I sit and order and now they can tell i'm not kashmiri, but when the food arrives, i eat with my hands. Ha. I could see them watching me and asking each other questions, or making comments, definitely making fun of me too. Hehe. I'm not used to having eyes on me all the time, but it happens often in this place. Anyway, I'm clean. I'm clean and I'm warm and in clean clothes and it's beautiful. I've already gotten used to my soiled surroundings and imagine a good sleep. I've set up my sleeping arrangement and am lying in bed finishing off my little journal for the day. Hmm. See, that wasn't really a story at all was it. Anti-cimactic in fact. But that's cause I truly suck at telling stories. IN the hands of the right person, and a small twist at the end, and this would have been a fun story for a traveler to tell a newbie, no? I'll have to add my travel back to Jammu from Srinigar tomorrow. I can't do it now.
Appendix:
So, my day yesterday. Woke up early, after not really sleeping much, got dressed, blah blah, said bye to the family, all of them except for Bilal, who wasn't around, and went on my way. Take a rickshaw to the Somu. I get there, was quoted 450, brought them down to 400, and then realized everyone was paying 3. Fucking hell. Again. I gotta find a way to change this getting jacked thing. I should just take my time fuck. I’m trying. Anyway, it wasn’t nearly as cold this time, but I was stuck in the back, wedged in with 3 other guys. I had no real view and no real way to take pics, not that it mattered since it was rainy and foggy the whole time. Anyway, we seemed to make good time, but towards the end it just dragged on and we found out the road got closed only a couple hours after we had gotten on it, but it was ok as it was closed behind us and not in front. Thank god. As much as I hated leaving, I just felt like I couldn’t stay there anymore. I needed out.
The view was no where as striking as it had been on the way there, the time when I lost all the images. Fuck. But it was ok, I had gotten what I needed and I left satisfied but drained and still lonely. It would get worse as it seems a little while later, but not having seen or talked to another foreigner, was definitely something that colored my experience, both good and bad. Jammu, got in, went straight to the hotel, dropped my bag, went to the net café, sent out some work, lost a client, didn’t care too much, spoke to jad, got some worrying news bout finances, then went to the hotel to end the long day, stopping off for food at a kashmiri meat shop. Ate with my hands, got strange looks, carried on. Got to my room, showered for the first time in ages, and crashed a couple hours later.
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